Fear Is Not Reality

Is Fear Blocking You From Moving Forward?

Is FEAR preventing YOU from moving forward to enjoy life? It is for many people. It is like a vicious circle, we feel fear about something, which in my own humble opinion is often not reality, but something we create in our own minds. Often what we are afraid of doesn't actually exist. We feel the fear, we don't believe in ourselves, we have a lack of self worth and a "why would anyone want to listen to me" or "why would anyone want to take me on board for a job or relationship" etc and often we worry about being accepted by people and we try to please people. This all creates negativity and ultimately can lead to an unsuccessful outcome.


If we feel fear however tell ourselves that it is not reality and we have nothing to be afraid of and embrace the feeling of apprehension and turn in into excitement or a positive emotion see how it can change the cycle! If we couple this with feeling some belief in ourselves, a feeling that we ARE worthy of good things (and why not) and also that anyone would be lucky to have us in their lives or to employ us and so on,  then this HAS to lead to a successful outcome - it is all positive rather than negative.


If we are feeling lack of self worth, self doubt, fear etc, then we need to do what I call "Breaking The Cycle" this can be done by looking deep into the reasons WHY we feel this way and what has caused us to feel like this. Working towards finding a way to LET GO of these emotions as they simply serve no purpose can dramatically change our thoughts and in turn how we feel about life and ourselves. Imagine if we let go what a weight could be lifted that could enable us to move forward lighter, free from some of the baggage we have carried around for so long!

Having suffered a horrific car accident back in 1986, crushing the entire right hand side of my face and losing an eye imagine the fear I felt going out of the house even to the shop or petrol station or just a visit to the doctor. It took a lot of courage, determination and self belief to eventually turn the negative emotions associated with lack of self worth, acceptance, huge fear etc but I did it in the end and am so much more at peace from realising that there are no boundaries, there is nothing to be afraid of and just to be yourself is all that is needed!


Love Shari x

Facing The World

I wanted to share with you a little story about a charity that I support and am rather in awe of to be honest.

The said charity is Facing The World it was founded as a result of the experiences of the late Martin Kelly, Norman Waterhouse and their colleagues from London. As craniofacial surgeons they became frustrated while volunteering abroad that children that they could have helped in the UK were being doomed to a life of pain and abuse as a result of limited facilities and the absence of the rest of their multidisciplinary team. The charity was founded by Norman Waterhouse  and the late Martin Kelly whose beautiful wife, the actress Natascha McElhone is still very hands on and involved with the charity today.

I was invited to a Welcome Home party last week for the lovely actor Bertie Portal & his trainer James Cash who have just rowed across the stormy seas of The Atlantic and raised around £400,000 for this amazing charity. I headed off down to London and checked into the hugest hotel I have seen for a while near Marble Arch with a reception area resembling a warehouse!! I jumped in a cab and headed over to Hamilton's Gallery where there was a reasonably small gathering of close family and friends all there to celebrate the safe return of these two incredibly brave men and to thank them for the money they have raised for the charity, I felt very flattered to be invited. 

It really did put everything into perspective once more, even though I, myself have suffered a life changing facial disfigurement, I am fortunate enough to live in a country where we do have a cranio facial team who actually specialise in this area and are so capable and willing to help whereas these poor children are unable to gain access to the specialists they need and their lives are clouded by bullying and abuse within their own communities.

When I left the party last week, although one of my  businesses FootballGiftWorld  is committed to helping the charity by way of raising funds through profits raised to help fund a child coming over for surgery, I felt I wanted to do something on a more personal level. I decided to start a JustGiving page up and as I am due to go to London for more surgery myself on my eye socket to rebuild it, I thought I would "Get Fit For Surgery" and lose 2-3 stone in weight and raise some money for the charity in the process! I have had a handful of donations already and am hopeful that as I share this with people they too will donate what they can to this amazing charity who are truly changing the lives of children and putting a smile back on their little faces!

If you would like to donate to my cause and help me to lose my 3 stone in weight to Get Fit For Surgery please visit my JustGiving page here and also visit FootballGiftWorld.co.uk too!

Thank you so very much!

Love Shari x

Be Totally Inspired: Is Plastic Surgery Addictive?

Be Totally Inspired: Is Plastic Surgery Addictive?

Is Plastic Surgery Addictive?

Another slightly controversial subject ... do you think that Plastic Surgery can be addictive?

I do! I have had to have a huge amount of reconstructive facial surgery not plastic surgery in the true meaning of the words, however I have learnt that many people once they have had a taste of a difference (for the better) in their looks simply want more! Human nature? It can be the case when we see a result that has not had much effect too and we want to keep thriving to gain what we see as perfection. What IS perfection anyway? Angelina Jolie, Megan Fox, George Clooney etc? Beauty mostly comes from the inside, although it takes many of us a lifetime to realise this! 

IF someone is having cosmetic plastic surgery to improve breast shape and size, rhinoplasty, botox and fillers in lips and face amongst many other procedures it may be for a legitimate reason, but I do feel that as plastic surgery is so accessible these days it can become addictive, like having a spray tan or a leg wax!

I feel that  people should firstly seek the right advice which is crucial when considering cosmetic or reconstructive plastic surgery and I would always suggest contacting  http://www.baaps.org.uk/ in the first instance  to find a reputable surgeon and trustworthy advice.

I am very fortunate to have found some amazing surgeons in London at The Chelsea & Westminster Hospital that I would trust implicitly if I ever needed advice on this type of surgery in the future!

Tread carefully and never forget to first of all make sure you feel beautiful on the inside ....

With love 

Shari x

Are we afraid to unblock some emotions?

The more I talk to people the more I realise that we are all carrying around so much emotional baggage it's incredible!

If you are true to yourself, what emotions do you think YOU may be afraid to unblock just in case they come flooding out with such force that you feel you may be unable to control them? I can identify with this myself having held in such a lot of emotion for so many years after suffering a horrific accident that dramatically changed my life. There were a whole host of emotions ranging from fear, anger, resentment, abandonment as well as feelings of huge loss and feeling isolated and alone. Is it better to release these emotions or hold them in? It's your call but my personal opinion is to release them but ONLY when the time is right for YOU! This is so vitally important. If you are not ready these emotions may burrow deeper and delay coming to the surface. 

Look for a method of release that suits you too, it may be CBT, Acupuncture, Bowen Technique or one of many other alternative therapies available and accessible to us these days. I urge you to let go of any old emotion as it simply holds NO purpose in your life right now, it just blocks up our bodies and minds - clear it and make space for some happy and positive emotions to creep in! 

 Love Shari x

Break the Cycle!

Hi there

Hope you are all well! I have been a busy girl over recent weeks with my business we are gearing up for Christmas with lots of fab gift ideas!

I have been thinking this week about just how much easier it is to move forward in life when we break the cycle! Do you ever wonder just why the same old things keep happening over and over again and you attract the same kind of people and situations into your life? It is because we are not very good at breaking the cycle that's all!

Once we recognise that we keep 'allowing' the same things to happen whether it be in a relationship with a partner of friend or indeed at work we can then move forward with a new perspective. If we choose not to acknowledge that we are allowing these situations to happen then we can never move forward, we simply go round and round in circles wondering why we keep either being treated like this or why the same situations are happening ... get it?

So .... the first step is to acknowledge and recognise what we don't want and then BREAK that cycle and change things, look at things in a different way some say re frame it and it appears differently.

Try it...... once you get the hang of it is is really refreshing that life seems to be taking a whole different course and it is purely down to YOU!

Love Shari x

Letting go....

Who admits to holding onto past situations and reliving them over and over again as though if we keep thinking about it it will ultimately have a different outcome?! Letting go of situations or events from our past that really now serve us no purpose is never easy, however in my opinion it is essential to clear old emotional blockages and create a healthy mind and healthy forward thinking as a direct result.

We need to believe that just because events in our past may have been traumatic beyond our control or have been negative in one way or another, it does NOT mean that these events will repeat themselves in the future. We need to look at each day as a fresh new challenge full of opportunities and it is up to US to recognise those opportunities and act on them. Today is a brand new day folks  don't forget that. Let the past go and look into the future with hope, trust and excitement at what you can make out of life!

Shari x